| Everywhere I look in my house, there are
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| improvements to make, and I am not
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| | Change your thought patterns: think
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| talking about the building where my
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| | positively about your potential to fix
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| family lives. By home, I mean where you
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| | the problem(s).
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| spend most of your time. Our houses
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| shelter us; our personalities and bodies
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| | Work on each repair until you (or someone
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| are home, and sometimes home is not so
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| | else) sees measureable results.
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| sweet. Here are five recommendations that
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| | Whether young or old, personal repair
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| might change the appearance of where you
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| | projects can be fixed. Neither youth or
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| live.
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| | old age imperil your potential. Your
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| The aisles of Lowes and Home Depot fill
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| | perceptions of success will determine the
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| with homeowners seeking hardware and
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| | results achieved and the way you get the
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| lumber to make home repairs. Often
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| | work done. If you can follow directions
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| couples debate and argue about how to
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| | and act on what you learn with a
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| manage a project. Sometimes heated
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| | life-time commitment toward
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| arguments take place at the service desk
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| | self-improvement, your life experiences
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| as clerks try to smooth over a consumer's
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| | will improve. If you give up, or decide
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| anger. The irony is that the
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| | to live within the malaise of routine,
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| do-it-yourself homeowner has emotional
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| | you will forget the adventures of youth
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| leaking valves with a few loose planks.
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| | and old age. Using the right tools and
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| Their conversation recommends some repair
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| | following a plan with professional
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| projects on their true residence, where
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| | guidance could turn a shack into a
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| they really live.
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| | castle, a pauper into a king.
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| We all have unfinished home improvement
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| | We know it is possible because we take
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| projects (if you think you don't, ask
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| | steps to make it happen. According to an
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| your spouse). Home projects show up on a
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| | American Psychological Association study,
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| list. We check them off, and move on to
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| | more than 50% of all Americans seek
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| the next one. We study, plan, construct,
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| | counseling or therapy. Not every
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| repair, and feel satisfaction with the
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| | therapeutic session works. A few factors
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| project's completion. We also have many
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| | help you achieve success. It is similar
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| unfinished personality projects; just how
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| | to getting a home improvement project
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| do we get them fixed and finished?
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| | completed.
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| Home Depot and Lowes have talented folks
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| | Ever wandered up and down aisles at home
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| for plumbing, carpentry, electrical, and
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| | improvement centers seeking the right
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| gardening. Where do we find helpful
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| | person to answer your question. Oh, we
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| resources to fix the circuits of our
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| | can find plenty of answers, but many
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| personality, or nail down a loose plank
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| | times the answer just does not make
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| in our biography? Who helps us with
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| | sense. We walk away thinking, "I know
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| personal improvement? How do we get the
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| | that will not work."
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| job done?
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| | Finding a healthcare professional or
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| A colleague said to me, "Ray, we can only
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| | personal counselor is the same. You have
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| help those who want to help themselves."
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| | to interview many to find one. The "one"
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| During another conversation he told me,
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| | hears you, replies, and you know what
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| "Most people over age 30 have a hard time
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| | your hearing makes sense. You finally
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| making changes in their personalities."
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| | have someone who knows what they are
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| The die is caste; the mold is set. Often
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| | talking about, speaks your language, and
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| frustration shows up when we get stuck
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| | directs you on how to get the repairs
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| and perplexed by a personality flaw. We
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| | done.
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| stride through the aisles of life angry
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| | When this happens, you find yourself
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| rather than resourceful. We walk in
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| | motivated to work. It takes work,
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| circles rather than marching to the help
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| | perspiration, and moments of frustration.
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| desk. Sometimes, we head to the
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| | At times, you will bang your thumb. At
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| parkinglot muttering about everyone
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| | the end of some projects you will realize
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| else's incompetence. Our house remains a
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| | it came out @$! backwards, and you have
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| shambled shack with rusted events strewn
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| | to do it over, but you will do it over
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| on the front lawn.
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| | until you get it reasonably right.
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| Many suffer such burdens, and they are
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| | How do I know this works. I have done it.
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| not alone. The American Psychological
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| | Finding the right person was
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| Association states that more than 50% of
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| | serendipitous. He was recommended, but it
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| the US population has a relative stuck in
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| | did not go well at first. We met on
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| the stupor of alcoholism. An alcoholic's
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| | Friday afternoon. At the beginning of one
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| dis-repair or dispair shows up in anger,
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| | session he said, "Ray, you are like a
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| memory loss, and depression. Just about
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| | little boy who had the covers over his
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| 14 million American adults abuse
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| | head. You lowered them to your chin, but
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| themselves and their family (National
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| | that is all you are doing; you are not
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| Institute on Alcohol Abuse and
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| | willing to work. You are wasting your
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| Alcoholism). "Young adults, ages 18-29,
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| | money and my time. It is better to end
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| have the highest rate of alcohol
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| | these sessions." I went home dumb,
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| problems," according to the National
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| | baffled, and angry. After hours of
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| Institute on Alcohol Abuse and
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| | thinking, I called his answering machine
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| Alcoholism. This group is more likely to
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| | saying, "I am ready to work." It took ten
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| confront personal violence than other age
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| | years, two times a week. One day he said
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| groups.
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| | to a group of three, "Ray is bored. Ray
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| We all face dangers, and we face them at
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| | on Monday come in to say good bye," and
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| an early age. Setting ourselves free,
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| | on Monday I did. That was 20 years ago.
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| getting the home-repairs to our
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| | Our homes need constant repair and so do
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| personality fixed is challenging and
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| | we. It is easier to fix a leaking pipe or
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| hopeful. You just have to get into the
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| | a creaking stair. Those projects require
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| right aisle to find the person with
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| | tools and instruction to get the job
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| expertise fitting your need. Before doing
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| | done. Our personalities work similarly.
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| that, Here are a few pointers (this is
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| | If we struggle with issues derived from
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| just an outline, not a total solution).
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| | youth and family, or an event we did not
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| | plan or expect, then help is what we
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| Find a qualified professional.
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| | should seek, work is what we should do,
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| | and a finished and well-done project is
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| Research the cause of your need.
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| | what we should expect.
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| | Copyright © 2006, A. Raymond Randall.
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| Record the progression of events bringing
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| | All Rights Reserved Worldwide.
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| you to this point.
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